A distressed bride is upset that one of her close friends no longer wants to attend her wedding after she had to deny a pricey request.
Taking to Reddit‘s popular “Am I the A–hole” forum, the 22-year-old woman explained that she and her husband-to-be were tying the knot within the coming weeks.
She wrote that they are “relatively good off moneywise” and opted to pay for the wedding themselves. However, they received a monetary gift from family and are using it to fly in guests who wouldn’t be able to afford to come otherwise.
Despite their generosity, the bride said that one of her closest friends is upset and thinks that she’s entitled to even more than others. After hearing her request, fellow Redditors weighed in that the bride is being viewed as a “cash register” and not a pal.
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In her post, the woman explained that her 24-year-old friend had “moved to the other side of the country to live with her husband.”
They are parents to three kids between the ages of four and one. The kids aren’t the problem.
“We both come from big families so there will be a lot of kids and the wedding won’t be child free or under any age restrictions there will be a lot of kids under the age of five,” the Redditor explained.
The problem stems from an additional request that the bride’s friend made: She wants the newlyweds to pay for her children’s childcare for the entire week.
She said that her pal “isn’t willing to have her kids come to the wedding.”
“We have repeatedly said that we were also willing to pay the kids airplane tickets because we love the kids. But we aren’t willing to pay for childcare because other friends and family have arranged childcare themselves because they weren’t willing to have the kids with them at the wedding(child free night🎉🥳) and we aren’t in the position to pay for everyone so we want to keep it fair,” the bride explained.
She continued, adding, “And she is the demanding we pay for childcare for the entire week (because that is how long we have this whole thing planned) we were willing to pay for childcare for the wedding itself, but not for the entire week that they had wanted to come over.”
“And now she’s blowing up my phone saying i am not a good friend because friends are willing to give everything to each other,” the woman added, asking if she was in the wrong.
Fellow Redditors rushed to weigh in, and they all came out in support of the bride.
“I wish I could tell [the friend] that exploiting your rich friends is still exploitation,” one person wrote.
Highlighting the guest’s quote that “friends are willing to give everything to each other,” another person replied, writing, “And yet she’s not willing to give money to a babysitter herself so she can be there for you. Funny how that only seems to run one way.”
“Are you sure she is your friend rather than a person who sees you as a cash register?” another person wondered, garnering support from nearly 200 other Redditors.
In a second post they added, “You have shown an extraordinary generosity by offering to fly people for the wedding. However, it also may have created the image in some people’s head that your are ‘loaded’. I do not know your and your friend’s overall economic situations but this may changed how she perceives you. Her original request is not crazy (if you are willing to pay for the tickets, why not ask for babysitting instead). Her reaction to your ‘no’ is crazy. Unfortunately money (even if it is not theirs) do change people.”
Yet another poster had a cheeky response. Assuring the bride that they weren’t in the wrong, they said, “just to remind you: f— off is a full sentence.”
